Everything is going great between you and him. And you start to get a little affectionate with one another. Then the angry bear comes out and a fight ensues. Afterward, you walk away asking yourself — Why do guys get mad when you say no? Perhaps your guy sulks or withdraws. So, when she says no, he gets mad.
Nobody is going to be surprised to hear that sex is important to men. But why? Some of it is really basic. Guys are wired to want to have sex. Most men don't get married just for sex, but we sure as heck don't get married to not have sex and intimacy. In my eyes it is the ultimate betrayal.
They also are often unaware of how much men get sex thrown at them. Having sexual images and messages sent at you all the time further feeds an already existing desire for it. Men have expectations about sex. Frequently, a lot of them.
And sadly, most of them go unspoken until they pop out when he gets mad about sex. I planned the weekend to give us the opportunity. Why else would I have taken her to such an expensive restaurant? I was looking forward to it all week. And, man, I had a rough week too! I lost it! Yes, sex makes you more relaxed and the chemicals released make you feel good. But its purpose is not to relieve stress. There are other, better ways to manage stress. But, unfortunately, a lot of men rely on sex to relieve their stress.
So, they come to depend on it. And they depend upon it for other reasons too. This is one of the reasons why porn addiction is so common. We all want to feel wanted. Sex is one of the most powerful ways this desire is conveyed between two people. Validation is an important need for men. This is one of the reasons why job and financial success is so important to most men.
