Dublin 01 info mindandbodyworks. Galway galway mindandbodyworks. Mon-Fri 8am-9pm Sat 9am-6pm. The following article comes from my own experience of working around the experience of rejection, I have used fictional characters as examples of typical human experiences seen by me over the years.
The most unbearable pain is that of being rejected, especially by the breakup of a relationship, the pain can be tangible and cruel, ruthless in its persistence and self-defeating in its negativity. When it happens, we feel merciless to the inner torment that it causes. Rejection, hopelessness, repeated, ruminating thoughts which are in every waking moment, every second spent alone. Desperate to be understood and listened to, our minds go over and over again ways of fixing the damage even of ways to become irresistible to the ex.
Even fantasies which would cause the other to feel the same unbearable pain. Excruciating is the pain of suffering rejection, we are often left looking at the life of the other as looking at ourselves is overwhelming.
Rejection hits us all in equal measures no matter what the human type, creed or class matters little, colour matters little, sexual orientation matters little. When I heard that he was leaving, I was washing up the dishes, oblivious to his intentions. We had been together for eight years, sure things were not perfect but I really believed that he would stay with me and that we could work out things together, we had been arguing and while there certainly had not been much love shared between us, we had still been sleeping together.
He proceeded to tell me that it had been on his mind for a while and that he did not want to be in a relationship with me anymore. So, I finished washing the dishes. I followed him into the bedroom and panicked when I saw that he was packing some clothes, he was leaving tonightβ¦I started to plead with him, tears exploding, body shakingβ¦I had no choice in this, I had no time.
