Those who follow my blog regularly know that I talk a lot about sex and about discerning when the best time is to have sex. You may agree with me, or, you may not, but, I think that sex and dating really is a big issue that needs to be discussed. For me, discussion on the sex and dating topic needs to be front and center. OK people … we need to talk.
Essentially, there are two schools of thought. Others think that waiting will ensure that you will get to know the person better before you decide that you want to be with them, then, and only then, should you have sex. Both schools of thought have merit and it really comes down to personal choice and comfort level. I always say, and this is true of EVERY encounter and every person you meet whether or not you have sex with them , that if someone wants to be with you they will be regardless of if you have sex with them the first date or the tenth date.
What do I think? Even if they will be with you anyway if you have sex or not, you will save yourself the emotional turmoil if they decide NOT to be with you. Besides as I spoke about previously on my blog countless studies have concluded that those couples who wait have stronger and more stable relationships because they got to know each other first and avoided the blinding lust which in turn allowed them to see the person for who they really are.
Can your booty call turn into a relationship? Short answer no. Long answer, well, no. Actually, it has been known to happen in rare occasions but what on earth makes you think that YOU are going to be the exception to the rule. One person usually develops feelings. Casual sex is not something to be taken lightly. Sex is something to be shared by two people who feel something strongly for each other. Now why would you want to reduce that to something unemotional and random?
It really does. It really really does. When meeting someone new just get to know them for who they really are. Get to know how they think, how they act in different situations, how they are socially, their likes, their dislikes … the good, the bad and the ugly. Get to know them first. Then decide if this is someone you want to have a relationship with. They should be doing the same.
