Intimate relationships without social recognition is gaining ground in many cities of the country. Harish Chandran was married when he first realised that he was attracted to the idea of having romantic relationships with multiple partners. Not just him, but his wife too. But being in love with more than one person at the same time is perhaps one of the last existing taboos of our times. For Chandran, and many others, small, independent communities like The Intimate Circle TIC and Bangalore Polycules help challenge the singularity of this thing called love.
To put a name to such a relationshipβthese feelings are mirrored in polyamory. But the basic idea is just more love, Chandran says. Conversations around polyamory are often filled with discomfort, misconceptions and grave suspicion despite the growing openness facilitated by the rise in social media discussions.
They even got a divorce, just to make a statement to society that genuine bonds transcend legal bindings. In India, the polyamorous community found its support in the form of small, autonomous groups such as TIC and Bangalore Polycules.
Rakshita name changed co-founded the Facebook group, Bangalore Polycules, around In the quiet corners of their meetings in the bustling city, they share candidly their emotionsβfrom the pangs of jealousy to the flutter of anxiety and the echo of fearβwhich are part of most relationships. Contrary to a common misconception held by non-poly individuals, orgies are not the purpose of these gatherings. We are a support group, NOT a dating service.
For Tamanna, who is 34, married and recovering from burnout, Bangalore Polycules came as a safe haven. The events hosted by the group aim to create a safe and inclusive space for individuals to share their experiences, seek advice, and learn from one another.
