Pegging is trending once again. While heterosexual men have been taking it in the butt for hundreds of years, in , we saw a new uptick in the Bend Over, Boyfriend phenomenon. I talked to some anal experts about what beginners need to know about pegging. First of all, pegging as we know it is not actually gay.
But it does have kind of gay roots. Savage initially brushed off the term, but it stuck around in the Savage Love community and eventually made its way into mainstream usage. This can be true for both the person penetrating, and the one being penetrated. And, Sparks emphasizes, the pegger and the peggee need to participate equally in the conversation and proclaim their enthusiastic consent before anyone gets out the lube.
She recommends using a dildo made of a flexible material — like silicone, starting small, and working your way up to larger sizes if it and when it feels good. People ask me all the time for dildo and strap-on harness recommendations, and while I do think that these are entirely personal choices, I also have some protips.
People with vaginas, for example, may get some extra pleasure from using a strapless strap-on — a dildo that is held in the vagina with what is essentially another dildo attached. When it comes to harnesses, I think you really get what you pay for. It has a lot of adjustment options and no metal parts, so you get all the control you need without worrying about it rusting when you wash it — which you should definitely do.
Despite rumors in the culture mill, the anus is not self-lubricating , full stop. Lube can make the difference between a pegging experience that gets you off and pegging that makes you tell someone to get lost. It may be tempting for newbies to use a numbing cream, but please resist the urge. The anus is very susceptible to microtears. Make sure you are talking to your pegging partner and asking them if they need more lube. Personally, I find experimenting with lube to be part of the fun, and buying lubes that are organic from BIPOC-owned companies is a good way to make your politics personal.
