I want more sexual variety and sexual relationships in my life. This was despite me putting a lot of effort into my profile, reading through your archives, etc. I worry that my personality held me back. I hate parties and clubs, and at bars I prefer to find a quiet corner to chat rather than be in the middle of things.
My idea of a fun Saturday night is playing board games with friends or discussing science and politics over cocktails. I posted my online dating profile in multiple mixed-gendered communities to get feedback, and I was told that sweet, introverted, nerdy guys looking for FWB are a dime a dozen and that women want adventures and excitement from casual relationships. But does this mean it will be difficult for me to be attractive to women seeking more casual relationships?
However, the bigger issue at hand is the assumption that folks who are looking for casual sex or an FWB arrangement are all wild and crazy party people who want to go on amazing adventures. Hell, some of the most sex-getting-est dudes I know — who have a lot of casual sex or who have multiple relationships, or both, for that matter tend to be introverts who prefer nights at home or low-key dates.
Some of the women I know who had the wildest, craziest sexual adventures were quiet and sweet — folks you would assume were natural kindergarten teachers who would be into crafts and cottagecore, and yet had strings of partners that would make your head spin.
Or it might be making pizza and cocktails at home and having a bad movie marathon while you cuddle on the couch. I suspect that you — like the forums you were consulting — may be falling into the trap of looking for the wrong folks because they align with what you think the FWB-havers are like. You want to be looking for the folks who actually like peaches. Are there women who want adventures and excitement from their casual relationships? Those are f--kbuddy relationships, where sex is the main — or possibly only — reason for the relationship.
