I also think it's rare to find a partner who shares the exact same ideology on open dating as you. And, I think using "open relationship" to define a situation you're simply not all that into is mostly just a giant cop-out. I was once involved with a girl who decided -- quite abruptly -- that she wanted to explore relationships without other people while "maintaining" our current relationship.
I'm not the most vanilla person on Earth, but I certainly cannot share my love with another person. It's just not how I'm wired. As it turns out, she wasn't wired for it either It went like this: her name was, uh, "Jennifer?
She encapsulated everything I was into at the time, which was easy on her part, because I was into some really shady shit back then.
I fell for Jennifer quickly. We spent a year dating each other exclusively with only a few tiny red flags that She would say truly awful things in a casual tone of voice that would lead anyone to believe it was completely normal to tell their boyfriend that they were "losing interest" in them.
I, being the impressionable young fool I was, discounted these ramblings as being a product of her character. This was all during and , when movies like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind still had their hold on men in America and forced us to believe that our mentally unstable girlfriends were just "unique. The "open" "relationship" started in early when she transferred colleges and decided to move to a state down south and attend a now-discredited art school.
